Traditionally there was a clear breakdown of wedding expenses. However, in today’s modern economy, the bride and groom may take on more of the financial responsibility for the wedding, especially in the case of second marriage(s).  These days, according to Emily Post, wedding “expenses are shared by the couple and their families, so assign the responsibilities to fit your circumstances”.

Traditional wedding expense responsibilities:

Bride and Bride’s Family

  • Groom’s ring
  • Ceremony location
  • Wedding dress and honeymoon attire
  • Ceremony flowers, bridesmaid’s flowers, flower girl flowers
  • Photography
  • First engagement party
  • Professional services such as flowers and catering for the reception
  • Bridesmaids’ luncheon
  • Stationary
  • Transportation to and from ceremony and reception sites

Groom and Groom’s Family

  • Bride’s ring
  • Marriage licence
  • Officiant
  • Groom’s attire
  • Bride’s bouquet, corsages and boutonnieres
  • Honeymoon
  • Rehearsal dinner
  • Bachelor’s dinner
  • Music and liquor at the reception


  • Their attire
  • Maid of Honor and Bridesmaids – Bridal shower
  • Best Man and Groomsmen – Bachelor party

However you decide to allocate resources for your wedding expense, remember, it is your celebration. If your parents and future in laws want to and are able to contribute financially, consider it a gift honoring your union. If they are unable to share in the financial responsibilities there may be other ways in which they can contribute by just being there for you, helping to reduce your stress, and making your day as special as it can be.